Archive for the 'Living richly' Category

Filling my dance card with writing work.

Sunday, April 17th, 2016

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Greetings, esteemed blog visitor!

Life and work have been treating me well. That said, with some big projects recently wrapped up, I do have unclaimed space on my dance card for the coming months.

In other words: Need a writer? Know of someone who needs a writer?

For lo these 17 years gone by, my work has spanned traditional journalism (I love writing magazine features), content marketing, corporate copywriting, and B2B brand journalism for hardware and software companies. Clients and editors come back to me for my ability to help people understand not only the workings of technology, but how tech can have a profound impact on business and life challenges they care about.

Two things I’d love to do more of:

1. Big projects with corporate clients. For instance, last fall I spent a couple of months completely rewriting the site of a network security company that was launching new product lines while rebranding after a merger.

2. Absorbing byline stories built on research & interviews. Short- or longform, magazine or digital. Particularly welcome are stories that combine business and tech (see above), stories dealing with neuroscience, and profiles of interesting people solving problems in new ways.

Happy to supply samples and references, of course. Please just drop me a line in the comments or through the channel of your choice (itemized here).

Looking forward to working with some of you soon!

If you had known then what you know now…

Sunday, April 3rd, 2016

Remember that “It doesn’t matter.”

Wednesday, March 2nd, 2016


Milton Glaser and his most famous design

Milton Glaser and his most famous design



Nine years ago I linked to Milton Glaser’s lovely essay, “Ten Things I Have Learned.” Tonight I was motivated to return to one passage of it:

Last year someone gave me a charming book by Roger Rosenblatt called ‘Ageing Gracefully’ I got it on my birthday. I did not appreciate the title at the time but it contains a series of rules for ageing gracefully. The first rule is the best. Rule number one is that ‘it doesn’t matter.’

‘It doesn’t matter what you think. Follow this rule and it will add decades to your life. It does not matter if you are late or early, if you are here or there, if you said it or didn’t say it, if you are clever or if you were stupid. If you were having a bad hair day or a no hair day or if your boss looks at you cockeyed or your boyfriend or girlfriend looks at you cockeyed, if you are cockeyed. If you don’t get that promotion or prize or house or if you do – it doesn’t matter.’ Wisdom at last.

I needed to read that tonight, and I thought maybe you might be able to use it, too.

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Algorithms for Work

Tuesday, February 23rd, 2016

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I’ve spent too much time over the years noodling about lifehacks, organizational systems, and so on. The more I work, and the more deeply I experience life, the more I believe that:

  • Yes, there are various little techniques and bits of footwork that help us organize ourselves, BUT . . .
  • For the most part, it comes down to a fairly short list of master algorithms that are sometimes hard to do, but not actually that difficult to understand.

I’m going to build this post slowly as I encounter algorithms that I think deserve to be on that short list. Your feedback will be eagerly received.

The Algorithms

Keep your decks clear. You can relate this to David Allen’s “open loops,” any number of decluttering systems, or simply the old wisdom to clean up after yourself. The core concept is to keep your mind clear to do good work.

Find the balance between tight and loose. My friend Geena frames this as “focus on your path but vigilantly scan the horizon for incoming.” I would generalize it to include a balance between (a) rigorous discipline and principles and (b) creative openness and fluidity. You must have both to succeed.

Keep moving. The essence of life is to move and change and grow. When you find yourself stuck, do what it takes to get un-stuck. This applies also to your body: you don’t need to be a pro athlete, but you DO need to move within your own physical capabilities.

Connect. So much of the value of life exists in relationships. Don’t worry about “networking” or the specific rules of relationships; just connect with the people who are important to you.

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Cast off your bogus obligations.

Sunday, November 1st, 2015

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I’ve been reviewing my life for fake obligations.

Of course we have genuine obligations — for example to our spouses and children, or contractual obligations that we’ve entered into intelligently and that it would be painful or unwise to break.

But feeling obligated, or guilty, about some old personal choice that doesn’t fit into one of those categories of genuine obligation? Bogus.

  • Feeling guilty about the “To Be Read” pile of books on your nightstand? Pointless
  • Needing to “catch up” on a TV show or your Twitter timeline? Inane.
  • . . . you can fill in your own examples.

I once worked with a guy who had a sort of fetish about reading ALL of the New York Times every day. But he was a busy man, so the newspapers piled up. He had weeks’ worth of a backlog, but he wouldn’t chuck even one section without at least leafing through it.

To the degree that that was enjoyable for him, and that the growing stack of newsprint in the corner of his living room didn’t weigh on his psyche, fine. But it was starting to weigh on him, from what he said.

A lot of us do something similar with our inboxes, magazines, Netflix queues, financial mail to be shredded, books we’re not thrilled about finishing, or whatever else. If you take ten seconds you can probably think of the leading culprits in your own life.

I say: chuck those bogus old not-really-obligations to the curb, and do it with a clear conscience. In fact, make a conscious point of developing your skill and your mental toughness in chucking them without remorse.

Travel light in your psyche, friends. Life is short.

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Commonplace: Lessing

Sunday, March 16th, 2014

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“Whatever you’re meant to do, do it now.
The conditions are always impossible.”


–Doris Lessing

Enough with the overthinking.

Wednesday, January 2nd, 2013

For a certain kind of smart person (*points to self*), overthinking is a real problem. You could call it “analysis paralysis,” “getting lost in the weeds,” or simply “neurosis.” Whatever you call it, the effects are the same:

  • Too much time spent thinking things over.
  • Mulling that doesn’t lead to action.
  • Angst.
  • Stuck-ness.

So, here in 2013, what say we give the overthinking a miss?

I have some ideas on how to avoid it — or curtail it when it does arise — but what are your best methods for dealing with overthinking?

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My New Year’s Wish for You.

Tuesday, January 1st, 2013

That you’ll embrace the magic of your life.

That you won’t shy away from whatever is deepest and best in you.

That this year, more so than any previous year, you will live.

What’s your wish for this new year?

(This post inspired by Neil Gaiman’s New Year’s wishes.)

Do you even know what the goal is?

Friday, November 16th, 2012

Don’t feel bad if you don’t. In my experience, many talented, ambitious people — even successful ones — don’t really know what they’re after. Or, if they know, they’re not willing to admit it and go for it. So if you’re unclear of your goals, realize that you’re not alone . . .

. . . but then get up and do something about it. I wrote my most recent CareOne column specifically to address this challenge:

How Will You Know When You Win?

Years ago, I learned a business lesson that’s as valuable as it is simple: When you’re setting out on a project, you want to have it very clear in your mind — and in the mind of anyone involved in the project — how you’ll know when you win.

In sports, it’s simple: you have a better score than your opponent when the game is over. If you’re a salesperson, it’s the straightforward question of whether you met your quota or not.

But not everything can be so simple.

So how will you know when you win in your own life?

I encourage you to read the rest on the CareOne blog and then let me know what you think.

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Just for an hour or two.

Sunday, November 11th, 2012

Tell the world to go away.

Focus on the most important thing. Don’t debate with yourself overly about what that is — it’s the one you’ve been putting off, the vital one, the first domino in the row, the big beating heart of your dreams.

For an hour, or a Sunday afternoon, set everything else aside. Turn off the television, ignore your inbox, and block out the noise. Beg off from life’s minutiae. Someone else can be on diaper duty, at least for an afternoon.

Then do that thing. Screw up your courage and do that thing.

Never apologize for doing the most important thing.

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